The personal nature of torment should not be underestimated

Shakespeare understood this. Romeo and Juliet ends in suicide. They kill themselves because their love is forbidden.

I admit I’ve wanted to die because of lost love. I don’t understand how other people survive the loss of love. It has torn me apart for years. Clearly I’m better off if I never love again.

But isn’t that an awful life? To have to stay away from falling in love is not a future I could handle but I can’t handle the pain of lost love. I don’t fall out of love quickly. Instead I burn inside for periods of time which are much longer than the brief period of being in love.

This isn’t the only reason I want to die but just like the others it’s reason enough for suicide. It is a curse to suffer so much once love is lost and it has been a profound torment. It made me want to die because I couldn’t handle the psychological pain. But to live without love or hope of love is an equally awful torment worth suicide instead of the awful future.

This issue of the curse of loving and the loveless future might not seem so bad. I’m sure some readers might think it to be a minor problem hardly worth mentioning let alone dying to escape. There’s a commonly held misnomer that there are certain reasons to die which aren’t acceptable.  This is what the anti suicide movement thinks about all reasons to die but I think that the public do see some reasons for suicide are valid.

I see all reasons as valid. The source of the pain is important for suicide treatment and prevention but not for validating suicide and sanctioning an assisted suicide. For me the important question is not why someone wants to die but what choice they make about enduring the torment or ending it. For me it is sufficient to hear the words “enough is enough!”

I care about what a suicidal individual wants done. If they want to talk they can talk but if they simply want to die I would want to help them get the best quality death they can get. For some it might be enough to take a suicide pill on their own but someone else might want to die with their loved ones around them. Some people may want an assisted suicide if they have no loved ones but don’t want to die alone.

It’s the psychological state of suicide pain which I abhor and the avoidance of this mental state is paramount. There are many reasons why people choose suicide but the pain is beyond all other pain. It is so awful that continued existence is impossible for the individual suffering suicide pain.

To force a suicidal individual to live is an act of torture. The misnomer is that some suicidal individuals can’t get a legal assisted suicide because their reasons to die aren’t good enough. It’s one of the reasons that all assisted suicide is illegal because it stops the scope creep of legalising limited forms of assisted suicide like assisted dying (assisted suicide only for terminally ill people) which could be a step towards assisted suicide for all people.

I believe there is only legal assisted suicide for all. I don’t believe in weighing up the reasons. I care about the awfulness of suicide pain and not worsening it. I believe the decision to die is sufficient evidence of the severe nature of the pain.

It’s an extreme view which I believe to be extremely humane. Obviously it is the diametric opposite of the prevailing anti suicide movement’s agenda which has been victorious in keeping all assisted suicide illegal.

I believe in a proactive suicide system but one whose sole goal is to prevent the torment of suicide pain. Reasons matter for a proactive approach to stopping suicidal ideation. That’s not what I’m discussing here. I’m talking about a reactive system with the same goal. Suicide stops the pain.

I believe in a proactive suicide education system which empowers the freedom to choose one’s death. In the absence of this those who want to die today should still be granted their freedom to die and their freedom to make a mistake despite the catastrophic consequence of death.


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